Committed but not motivated. goals mental skills Sep 26, 2023

You might be surprised, but no matter how important a particular goal is, you won't always be motivated to go after it. Most of the time, you won't be motivated at all.

 

No, I'm not trying to depress you. Motivation is an emotion, and relying on a feeling to achieve your goals...

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Are you team expectation or team intention? energy goals Sep 19, 2023

Last week, I had a great conversation with a new coaching client, and we discussed an upcoming event. She said (something like), "I don't have any expectations, but I do have intentions." Brilliant! How perfect!

 

I've been on a bit of an expectation kick lately....

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You're lying about your progress. (Probably) goals mindset Sep 13, 2023

This month in the Q-Membership, we are talking about how we lie to ourselves when measuring our progress. The weird thing is, we don't lie to ourselves on purpose; we just aren't very honest about how we're doing.

 

For instance, we are much harder on ourselves than the facts show....

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Puppies & the expectations that come with them! goals puppies Sep 06, 2023

I haven't had a puppy in nearly seven years, and I forgot how unproductive they make you! LOL! Thank goodness for forced naptime!

 

But puppies come with a lot more than endless energy and sharp teeth; they come with a whole bunch of expectations.

 

Since we just chatted about ...

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The case for and against expectations. goals mindset Aug 29, 2023

We are taught that this world is explainable and has a reason for everything. The moon's phases, weather, and even math (inside joke) have logical reasons for being. Then, a grade school teacher tells us that if we work hard, our efforts will be rewarded, and our parents back this up. Our lives...

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Post-trial blues. goals mindset Aug 22, 2023

Have you ever felt worse after a successful weekend of showing? Ever felt terrible though your dashboard is decorated with ribbons?

 

It's a weird feeling, but it happens more than you might think. We have a fantastic weekend only to wake up Monday with the after-trial blues. How could that...

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When life takes you out. bouncing back grief Aug 15, 2023

I am still trying to figure out what I did (or didn't do) last week. What I do know is that I was wholly unproductive after losing my oldest Berner on Monday.

 

The world tells us we must push through our grief - or disappointments - and move on with our lives and obligations. If you still...

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Grief & savoring - so much heart! grief savoring Aug 08, 2023

I'm entering a grief period. Knowing this in advance is weird, but I know it's coming. My 12.5yo Berner is fading, and our days together are finite, so I know what awaits.

 

BUT

 

This story is NOT meant to have you grabbing all the tissues. No! This is about "savoring," a wonderful...

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Are you thinking about your energy? energy mindset Aug 01, 2023

Every once in a while, I get kinda fixated on a concept. Right now, that's our energy as handlers and how it impacts every aspect of our dog sports.

 

Spoiler alert: This week's podcast and the Q-Membership for August are all about energy.

 

Energy is a huge...

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Can you let comparison push you? comparison goals Jul 26, 2023

Lately, the comparison gremlins have been popping up in interesting - and annoying - ways. Sometimes they tell me I'm not succeeding at work; other times, I should be doing more with my dogs. Just yesterday, Facebook suggested a friend because of mutual connections, and I thought, "What...

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Best laid plans. bouncing back mental stamina Jul 19, 2023

 

Every one of us could entertain a campfire crowd of people with tales of how our plans went awry. Memes are devoted to it: You make a plan, and God laughs. Plan is a four-letter word. Anything about the pandemic. My point is that it's a universal experience to have plans fall apart,...

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Handling bullies & toxic peeps with grace & sanity. mindset toxic people Jul 10, 2023

If only we had any control over other people! But we don't, and sometimes people can be downright awful to us and others. It's that yucky part of our sport that we could all do without. And while I wish it were fading away, bad behavior will probably always stick around. Sigh.

 

This is on...

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