Recognizing stress in all its forms. mindset stress Jul 16, 2024

I recently posed a question to the "hive mind" on Facebook requesting ideas for supporting a dog who "stresses down." First, I received a lot of great comments - thanks to all who chimed in! Second, I received many private messages from people who had never heard the...

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Starting a reflection habit (like the Olympians!) feedback journal Jul 02, 2024

I'm fully immersed in "Olympic season," which begins with the trials and culminates with the passing of the torch. I've always been a geek for this "season" with its many thrills of victory, so consider this your warning - LOL.

 

Not surprisingly, I'm obsessed with the mental games...

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Spinning catastrophic tales. anxiety & fear mindset Jun 25, 2024

The other day, I was spinning. I was worrying  - no, fretting - about something that might or could happen, and then planning what to do about it. I was burning a LOT of energy on "negative fantasy island." It wasn't fun.

 

I saw myself doing it - I was fully aware. I knew I...

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Does you plateau makes you want to jump off a ledge? frustration mindset Jun 18, 2024

We've all been there. Working hard, putting in the hours, training your dog for agility, obedience, or rally competitions, and you hit the wall. (Open purgatory, anyone?) Progress comes to a screeching halt. It feels like you've hit an invisible wall. It might be normal - even expected...

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She's singing my song - Interview with Cynthia Horner interview mindset Jun 11, 2024

I don't listen to my podcasts after I record them. I prepare, record, add the bits to the ends and middle, and I send them off. But this week's episode (dropping Thursday) is a doozy - not only because it's an interview with Cynthia Horner (the 2024 Westminster winner++), but...

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Are you chasing your goal away? big events mindset Jun 04, 2024

Tis the season of chasing goals. In agility, this means pushing to qualify for the Agility Invitational and crossing off big goals like MACHs and PACHs. Oh, but my fellow obedience, conformation, rally, and other dog sports players are not off the hook - this "chasing" catches all of us...

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When comparison becomes our measuring stick. comparison goals May 28, 2024

When I talk to handlers, comparison often comes up in some form or another - which is why I talk about it as much as I do, I suppose. This weekend, while giving a seminar, another possible cause of comparison surfaced: We look to others when we don't have a good way of measuring our own...

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When your life-life messes up your dog-life. grit mindset May 21, 2024

Compartmentalizing our lives seems to be the norm - we have our dog life, our work life, our parent life, our spouse life, and so on. I find that most people keep some type of emotional divider between the many complex aspects of being a human. In coaching, I...

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In praise of being (a little) selfish. big events mental skills May 15, 2024

We seem so afraid of being labeled selfish that we have forgotten how to put ourselves first when we need to.

Before Westminster, I worked with a few clients (agility and conformation) who each - in their own way - were having trouble putting themselves first when it came to preparing...

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Need motivation to get motivation? membership motivation May 10, 2024

I'm on a motivation kick lately. It's no surprise as many of the lessons I share are ones I need for myself - and I could use some motivation!

The thing about motivation is that it's an emotion, and emotions come and go. So it shouldn't be a surprise that our motivation...

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Not everything has meaning. handler skills mindset Apr 30, 2024

As humans, one of the things our brain is designed to do is see patterns and trends; it's how we learn so quickly. We also look for patterns when we need more information - like trying to solve a puzzle. Seeing patterns is a tremendously valuable skill set, and the best of us can uncover...

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Meltdowns and meatballs mental skills mindset Apr 22, 2024

Sometimes, we're not upset for the reason we think we are. I've had several coaching clients lately who can tell they're getting more upset than usual, but they can't quite figure out why.

From what I see, meltdowns are rarely about the last thing that happened to send you over the...

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