You need to let it go!! anxiety & fear bouncing back Mar 12, 2024

I'm not sure who needs to hear this, but it's okay to forgive yourself. For mistakes made, for things not working out, or for the things you wish you could do over.

 

It's okay. You can let it go. You can forgive yourself.

 

You might be surprised to learn you're not alone in holding...

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Do you love an emotional spiral? bouncing back mindset Jan 16, 2024

Oh, the power of the downward spiral! Something "bad" happens in the ring, and then we come out and can talk about nothing other than the mistake. The emotion of the error spins up a frenzy that seems to leave an emotional mark long after the run. It takes on a life of its own, and down...

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When life takes you out. bouncing back grief Aug 15, 2023

I am still trying to figure out what I did (or didn't do) last week. What I do know is that I was wholly unproductive after losing my oldest Berner on Monday.

 

The world tells us we must push through our grief - or disappointments - and move on with our lives and obligations. If you still...

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Best laid plans. bouncing back mental stamina Jul 19, 2023

 

Every one of us could entertain a campfire crowd of people with tales of how our plans went awry. Memes are devoted to it: You make a plan, and God laughs. Plan is a four-letter word. Anything about the pandemic. My point is that it's a universal experience to have plans fall apart,...

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Are you being a goldfish? Or an elephant? bouncing back mental skills Jun 27, 2023

I'm going back and re-watching all three seasons of Ted Lasso. (We can discuss my denial that the show ended some other time - haha!) Any-who ... One of the (many) great concepts from the show is Ted's insistence that we should all "be a goldfish."

 

Ted (an American coaching football,...

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Do dog sports ever make you cry? bouncing back resilience Jun 20, 2023

Of course they do! And with good reason, right?

I mean, we cry because our hearts are broken, or we're disappointed, or we're so happy that only tears will do.

Just this past weekend, while walking my dog at an agility trial, I cried out of frustration. I wasn't mad at my dog or even at myself, I...

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Do you wish you had a time machine? bouncing back mental skills Mar 07, 2023

Ever had a tough time getting over something that happened in the ring (or even at a trial)? Silly question, of course you have.

The thing is, we've all had issues letting go of mistakes, bad runs, or some other letdown. And one reason some mistakes feel stickier than others is that we really...

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