Congrats on working on your mindset! goals mindset Dec 19, 2023

I spent the weekend glued to AKC.tv, trying to catch my clients' runs. If you were there, know that my dogs thought I'd unlocked a new level of insanity since I was simultaneously cheering and crying at the TV in between yelling about the livestreaming issues. (I'm complex, okay - ha). I was...

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Arguing against compartmentalizing. fun gratitude mindset Nov 28, 2023

 

This month in the membership, we aren't talking about dogs at all. Okay, maybe we are a little bit, but it's not the focus of our mindset work. Instead, we are getting our life-life in shape because of how much it impacts our dog-life.

 

It turns out we aren't robots. We...

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Are you being toxic with yourself? mindset toxic people Nov 14, 2023

When it comes to competition, maintaining a positive mindset is often championed as the golden ticket to success - after all, nothing positive comes from a negative mindset! But is there such a thing as "too positive?" Or "too grateful?" Sorta. Both positivity and gratitude can go to the...

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It's not all fun and games. energy mindset Nov 07, 2023

On the heels of what ended up being a very impactful podcast last week on fun (who knew?!), I heard about "The Rule of Thirds."

 

While I'm sure there are other versions out there, the one I heard was from the perspective of an Olympic athlete being told about the Rule of Thirds by...

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Choose magic. anxiety & fear mindset Oct 31, 2023

We are anthropologically wired to look for the bad stuff. To look for the danger, the things that might go wrong. This behavior has kept us safe from bears, and fire, and toxic cave-people (I assume). When we scan our environment for danger to find none, we can then focus on the task at hand -...

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The (mean) stories we tell ourselves. mental skills mindset Oct 17, 2023

Last week, I didn't send a newsletter (did you miss me?), and as a result, I beat myself up. I enjoy writing to you weekly, just as I enjoy recording my podcasts, yet missing one week had me feeling guilty.

 

It was easy to tell myself it was no big deal in the scheme of things,...

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You're lying about your progress. (Probably) goals mindset Sep 13, 2023

This month in the Q-Membership, we are talking about how we lie to ourselves when measuring our progress. The weird thing is, we don't lie to ourselves on purpose; we just aren't very honest about how we're doing.

 

For instance, we are much harder on ourselves than the facts show....

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The case for and against expectations. goals mindset Aug 29, 2023

We are taught that this world is explainable and has a reason for everything. The moon's phases, weather, and even math (inside joke) have logical reasons for being. Then, a grade school teacher tells us that if we work hard, our efforts will be rewarded, and our parents back this up. Our lives...

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Post-trial blues. goals mindset Aug 22, 2023

Have you ever felt worse after a successful weekend of showing? Ever felt terrible though your dashboard is decorated with ribbons?

 

It's a weird feeling, but it happens more than you might think. We have a fantastic weekend only to wake up Monday with the after-trial blues. How could that...

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Are you thinking about your energy? energy mindset Aug 01, 2023

Every once in a while, I get kinda fixated on a concept. Right now, that's our energy as handlers and how it impacts every aspect of our dog sports.

 

Spoiler alert: This week's podcast and the Q-Membership for August are all about energy.

 

Energy is a huge...

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Handling bullies & toxic peeps with grace & sanity. mindset toxic people Jul 10, 2023

If only we had any control over other people! But we don't, and sometimes people can be downright awful to us and others. It's that yucky part of our sport that we could all do without. And while I wish it were fading away, bad behavior will probably always stick around. Sigh.

 

This is on...

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When a good day breaks your brain. anxiety & fear mindset May 30, 2023

Ever have a really good day and feel less confident as a result? It can happen for a few reasons: 

  • We fear we can't repeat the excellent performance, that it was just a fluke (imposter syndrome).
  • We're afraid we set a new standard that we have to live up to (pressure).
  • We want to...
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